What Can I Do or Say to Help My Child?

The single most important factor affecting your child's recovery is the level of support from the parents or caregivers. It is this simple: If you do everything you can to support your child, the chances of recovery are much greater!

Helpful things you can say to your child that will support them:

• I believe you.
• I know it's not your fault.
• I'm sorry this happened to you.
• I don't know what will happen now.
• You don't need to take care of me.
• I am upset, but not with you.
• I am angry at the person who did this to you.
• You can still love someone but hate what they did to you.
• I love you.

Helpful things you can do for your child that will support them:

• Reassure your child that this is not their fault and you are glad they told you.
• Listen to your child if they want to talk, but be careful not to question your child about the abuse.
• It is important to avoid pressuring the child about details. Children tend to stop talking if questions are repeated too often.
• Protect your child immediately from the person suspected of the abuse. This is to protect you, that person, and the child.
• Help your child work with the professionals who will handle the case.
• Keep your routine normal while providing safety, love, and support to your child.
• Seek counseling for your child as soon as possible. Child Safe will provide a list of mental health providers in your area and can assist you with any help you may need to receive therapy.
• Take care of yourself. You are not in this alone and Child Safe can help you find resources to meet your needs.
• Remember to give attention to your other children.